Raising respectful sons in the #MeToo era

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Davie Ingram has always wanted to be a dad.

"I never was that guy that's like 'Maybe, if it happens,'" he said. "I always wanted to have kids."

The 31-year-old and his wife have two sons: Liam, 2, an Axel, just 2 months old.

"I think this generation is different from when you and I were growing up," he told me, referring to children growing up now in the midst of a cultural reckoning with the #MeToo global movement against sexual harassment and assault.

It has seen everyone from Hollywood celebrities to politicians and business titans forced to resign following allegations. It has also given dads like Ingram a new perspective on parenting. He said he wants each of his sons to be known as a guy who respects women.

"The guy who no matter what anyone says they will say, 'that guy is the most respectful person that I know,'" Ingram said. "Because if he continually just has that at the forefront of his mind, anytime he's in a situation that is deemed inappropriate he can understand, 'How does this reflect on who I want to be?' And if it doesn't reflect on who he wants to be, he leaves that situation."

FOX 5 NY also got perspective on all this from Jennifer Fink, a mom to four boys, from 12 to 20, and founder of the website buildingboys.net.

"We are all figuring this out together. When I talk to my boys, one of the things I say is, 'If the adults had this all figured out, you wouldn't be seeing the news stories you're seeing," Fink said. "We are all learning together."

Learning, she said, about the evolving concept of masculinity.

"As they were growing up, they were steeped in a lot of messages that said things like 'boys don't cry,' 'be tough,' 'man up,'" she said. "And now we're having this conversation and we're saying, 'Hey you've got to express feelings, pay attention to feelings."