Beyond red and green: Why beige flags add spice to love stories
'Beige flags,' the new dating term that's going viral
Not red flags, but beige flags. Less concerning but still something daters need to look out for when getting to know someone. Fox 5 NY's Jennifer Williams talks to a relationship expert and New Yorkers to see what the term means for the future of dating.
We've heard of 'Red Flags,' we've heard of 'Green Flags', but have you heard of 'Beige Flags'?
"Beige flags are those little things, those quirks that might be an issue that are kind of getting under your skin, but the person's not quite crossing a boundary," says Relationship Expert and author of He's Just Not Your Type (And That's A Good Thing)," Andrea Syrtash, adding, "and it's not a 'Red Flag.'"
Urban dictionary defines beige flags as:
- "Something that's neither good nor bad but makes you pause for a minute when you notice it, and then you just continue on.... something odd."
'Beige Flags' are not to be confused with an 'Ick' - which Urban Dictionary defines as:
- Something someone does that is an instant turn-off for you, making you instantly hate the idea of being with them romantically.
"What's important is someone's character, how she/or her treats you, how you feel around the person, and that is what matters. So I think the 'Beige Flag' discussion is distracting us from doing the deeper work of what matters with compatibility," said Syrtash.
Syrtash adds you can't change people—the way someone chews or laughs is a far cry from toxic or harmful behavior i.e. 'Red Flags.'
"Nobody wants someone correcting them all the time—that's just you being annoying," advises Syrtash. "You probably have some things that are also a little annoying. So let's just all be patient."